This postAs a rule, I generally don’t talk about dating on this blog because I know that if I do, I’ll live to regret it. :) But lately I’ve felt that I should talk a little bit about my biggest dream: to be married and have a family.
Looking at it from a worldly perspective, I can honestly say that my desire for marriage has virtually nothing to do with sex. (And I hasten to add that I believe that sex is only appropriate within a legal and lawful marriage, not before and not extramarital.) On the contrary, I look forward to having a wife who will be a best friend, a companion, someone who supports me in my endeavors and who I can support in hers. “It is not good for man to be alone.” I want — I need — someone to grow with, to share the happy times and the sad times, to love with all my heart and soul. I’m a romantic and that part of a relationship appeals to me a great deal, but I really feel that the more attractive part of it (for me) is the friendship, the togetherness, the complement and fulfillment, two souls growing into one over time.
And then the children come. And yes, I do want children — lots of them. (I have eight little brothers and sisters, by the way.) Sure, it’s not always glamorous — waking up at 2 a.m. when the baby’s crying because of diarrhea and your two-year-old is throwing up with the flu is anything but glamorous — and that’s okay with me. I know it can’t always be happy-smiley, and that there need to be hard times, but I do believe that that’s where growth comes and that it’s worth every moment. And while the world goes on telling everyone that being a father or a mother is boring and useless and that careers are so much more important, I’m sticking to my dream. Being a father and a husband is far more important to me than my career will ever be. Sorry if you’re my future employer and you’re reading this. :) I really can’t wait for the days of pinching pennies with my newlywed wife, shopping for groceries, fixing up a home, changing diapers, holding Family Home Evening, and the list could go on forever.
There’s nothing I want more than a family. And no, this is not a dating advertisement. :) In a world where families are being torn apart left and right, from both the inside and the outside, there are still those who believe good families can happen and that it’s incredibly important.
Hmm, I never really thought I’d write about this, but here it is.
