No, really, I’m afraid I have a habit of wrecking Yentas’ perfect matchmaking records. Not a single person, not even my own family, has come close! In fact, it’s hilarious to see what kind of a girl people perceive as my type. They’re always dead wrong. (Which makes me wonder what kind of message I’m sending. :)) Inspecting it further, I find that most of the time there are indeed a handful of common interests, but inevitably the chemistry is missing.

By chemistry I don’t mean that the girl has to be drop-dead gorgeous or anything like that, of course. Indeed, it doesn’t have all that much to do with looks, though it is a part of it. I don’t know how to describe it, but it’s something beyond my power to conjure up. I can’t force myself to like a girl. Believe me, I’ve tried. :) I am kind of glad that I don’t just fall in love with every pretty girl I see, though — it’ll make it a whole lot easier to stay loyal once I do find my wife. (And I intend to be fiercely loyal.)

Getting back to matchmaking, the whole idea of getting set up is nice and dandy, and it works for some people, but in my case I think I strongly prefer meeting girls through natural methods (day-to-day life). I guess I’m getting jaded in my old age. :)

But with the complimentary personalities thing, that’s definitely true. It’s nice when parents can make up for each other’s short comings, and the kids can hopefully pick up the best of both. :P

That being said, I think there also needs to be separate interests. I enjoy blogging and programming. My girlfriend likes canning and biking. These are activities that allow us to have some “alone time” which I think is also healthy in a relationship. If you had the same exact interests in everything, I think there would be too much competition, and frankly, you’d get sick of being with each other 24/7.