Why you should join Facebook

Categories: Web, Relationships

Everyone’s heard of Facebook by now, but I still run into scads of people who are staunchly anti. Or at least apathetic. And so, without further ado, I give you nine reasons why you should join Facebook.

1. Addresses change. With our shrunken world, people move around a lot. E-mail addresses change not infrequently. Phone numbers change too, albeit perhaps not as much. And what if someone neglects to give you their new contact information? Good luck finding them. Facebook, on the other hand, stays in place, and it gives you access to your friends’ e-mail addresses and phone numbers, too. (If they choose to list them, of course.)

2. Facebook resurrects friendships. Through Facebook, I’ve gotten in contact again with dozens and dozens of people I’d lost track of because of #1.

3. Facebook helps you keep track of birthdays. Small and unimportant, perhaps, but it’s a lifesaver when you want to know who’s birthday is coming up.

4. Facebook doesn’t replace real life; it supplements it. Facebook helps you maintain the friendships you’ve got, keeping track of where people are going and what’s going on in their lives. Sure, you can do that in real life, too, but do you really have the time and energy to do it for all your friends? Facebook helps you be a better friend. Really.

5. Facebook enhances your networks. The world is a small place, and there are all sorts of connections you’ve never known existed. Whenever you go to someone’s profile, Facebook shows you the mutual friends between you and that person, expanding your knowledge of who knows who. And besides, it’s fun.

5. Facebook only takes as much time as you want to put into it. People can get addicted to something like Facebook because we humans are social creatures, and social stuff is fun. And that’s okay. But you’re still the one in control — you don’t have to check your profile every half-hour if you don’t want to. And if you do get addicted, you don’t have to pull the plug — it’s not that hard to pull back a little bit without going all the way.

7. Facebook respects your privacy. You don’t have to reveal information you don’t want out in the open. Don’t want your phone number listed? No problem. And if you want your friends to see your e-mail address, but no one else? Piece of cake.

8. Facebook isn’t just for college students. While it may originally have been targeted at twenty-somethings, it’s branching out now to every age group. Nowadays, Facebook is as much for high school kids and octogenarians as it is for the college crowd.

9. Facebook is it. Yes, there are other social networks, and no, they’re not all worthless. But Facebook has 30 million users and it’s growing like wildfire. It’s going to be the largest social network in the world. Now, sometimes it’s stupid to hop on the bandwagon, but in this case it’s the right thing to do, because Facebook is going to become as ubiquitous as the telephone. Like it or not, the Internet is a major part of life in the 21st century, and Facebook is going to be one of the deciding factors in whether or not you exist as far as the web is concerned. Don’t be left behind in the 20th century — go to facebook.com and sign up, now. :)

And no, Facebook is not paying me to write this post. :)

 

Comments

 
1. Liz Muir

How about the concerns expressed in your post slightly over a year ago?

 
2. J

Ben,

This is an interesting post coming from you. A few months ago, I deleted my MySpace account after reading one of your posts. When Heather opened her Facebook account so that she could share her internship photos, I wasn’t sure what to think about it. I was mentally juggling your Stake President’s counsel, and your post, with Heather’s reasoning and my knowledge of her goodness. I concluded that the counsel that your stake had received was specifically for members of your stake and a matter for you to judge. To extend it further was not correct and to make it a commandment was folly.

When I was younger, I wondered that the Law of Moses was given to the Israelites to bring them to Christ and then later used by them to crucify Christ. How could that be? The answer is that the Law had been added upon. My childhood was filled with restrictions because others (those in authority over me) personal preferences became commandments from God. It has been a sad but interesting journey to discover the origin of the extra commandments that usurped my agency as I was being raised. Almost everyone who was under that umbrella of unrighteous dominion ended up rebelling at their peril to claim their agency. When their agency was reclaimed, their lives straightened out. This process almost cost me my life.

I love Facebook. I agree with everything that you said in this post. I love the control that I have over my account. Because I plan to use my account to share family documents for genealogy and to share children’s photos, I deny almost all friend requests. I have only accepted one request for someone that I didn’t know, but I knew of her. I bluntly asked her to tell me why she wanted to be my friend and received a very nice essay back telling me why. All other non-family friends on my account are friends of Heather’s that have photos of her that I was interested in having access to. That said, I’m sure that many of the older generation will use this utility differently than your generation.

I wonder how much better my generation would be if we had this utility (and blogging) to maintain and extend our friendships, thoughts and associations throughout our lives. As for wasting time, my generation usually spends two to three hours a night watching news on TV. Then they fill their minds full of hate radio while driving to and fro. Their associations are limited by proximity to property and their conversations are filled with negative - Chicken Little…the sky is falling, the opposing political party, religion or younger generations are bad variety of nonsense.

Quite frankly, I see some great advantages in broadened interactions that extend globally. I love the fact that the interactions are people driven rather than corporation and politician driven. That said, I think that I will probably start another Facebook account for my family and start collecting some new friends of my own on my existing account.

Volunteers or referrals anyone?

 
3. J

Ben,
I feel that I should do a retraction of my above comment. I just read an online article *To Catch a Predator* http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/19838639/. It seems that there are real dangers in the uncensored innocent use of social utilities like Facebook. I think that they can be good when used with extreme caution and restraint. I now realize that innocent lives can be at stake while trying to appear popular and collect friends. Perhaps your Stake President’s counsel to the young adults in your stake was necessary and inspired.

I can see some real dangers in wanting to be popular and attracting unknown friends then giving them information about and photographs of innocent unsuspecting potential victims of rape or worse…

I will not be allowing any unknown commodity into my circle of friends. I will keep my account very limited in scope and scale back the information that I put up and those whom I allow in. Please read the article and be cautious when promoting these utilities. There is more to the caution that you received than initially meets the eye.

I am now curious as to the many friend requests that I receive daily that I have turned down. I don’t know who they are or how they got my name to even make the request. I wonder… Please be careful and admonish your friends to be careful. I would hate to have anyone’s live ruined or taken for such a frivolous thing as this. And, I certainly wouldn’t want to be held accountable for promoting that which destroyed a life.

 
4. J

This is the link to the Dateline *Online enemies already in your home - book excerpt that talks specifically about MySpace and Facebook. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17584928/. The other link talkes about the predator sting operation in detail.

 
5. Holly

Yeh, I couldn’t help but think about your post about obeying, too– I hadn’t had much exposure to Facebook before you said what your Stake President said, so that being the first impression, I basically decided that I would aviod it. I’m curious to hear about what made the difference to you.

 
6. Ben

Liz and Holly: Ah, I’ve been waiting for someone to say something! :) As it turns out, shortly before I joined I talked with my stake president and basically asked for permission. (Yes, it felt awkward.) He said I should pray about it, and if the Spirit was fine with it, then he was, too. And I did, and it was, and so I joined.

J: I don’t doubt that this is precisely the sort of thing that gave birth to that counsel. Having thought about this a lot, I don’t think we need to *boycott* social networks like Facebook, but rather learn how to use them safely. After all, as you say, they can be good when used with caution and restraint. And the plain fact of the matter is that kids *are* going to be on Facebook (they already are, and there’s no sign of stopping), so if all of us adults pull out, it’ll just be the kids and the predators. It’s better for us to stay and keep our eyes open than for us to flee, I think. And of course we should be careful with who we add as a friend, because if they go on to add someone else, that person will see us as a mutual friend and perhaps trust the other person more than they ought.

Personally, I’m not worried about myself at all, but I would certainly feel absolutely wretched if something were to happen to someone I know because of me. But I don’t think the fear of that happening is enough to make me delete my account — if it were, then I may as well delete all my websites and e-mail accounts and go hide in a hole in the Himalayas.

 
7. Sasi

Can you please tell me how one can access facebook on Mac 4.

 
8. Ben

Sasi, I’m not quite sure what you’re asking here — a Mac 4? Do you mean a G4? Do you have Firefox installed on it?

 

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