Comments on: Add attachment http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/ "Hitch your wagon to a star." —Ralph Waldo Emerson Mon, 06 Oct 2008 19:45:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0 by: Ben http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-59698 Thu, 03 Jan 2008 01:02:59 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-59698 I'm on my guard. :P No, really, I wonder why we often try to cover it up or excuse it. Maybe some think love equals weakness? I don't know. I’m on my guard. :P No, really, I wonder why we often try to cover it up or excuse it. Maybe some think love equals weakness? I don’t know.

]]> by: James http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-59672 Wed, 02 Jan 2008 23:28:50 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-59672 Holy cow, Ben. In pouring out your soul, thinking you were in the minority, it turns out that you have uncovered a common part of humanity: the ability and tendency to love. Sure, some people may have tried to extinguish this, and some people may genuinely be "haters," but I think that the majority of people feel the same way. Heck, I do. So next time you're walking around campus, watch out for people sticking to <i>you</i>! Holy cow, Ben. In pouring out your soul, thinking you were in the minority, it turns out that you have uncovered a common part of humanity: the ability and tendency to love. Sure, some people may have tried to extinguish this, and some people may genuinely be “haters,” but I think that the majority of people feel the same way. Heck, I do. So next time you’re walking around campus, watch out for people sticking to you!

]]> by: Ben http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58415 Fri, 21 Dec 2007 14:53:14 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58415 Holly: Glad you feel the same way too. :) Yes, I'd left by then, but I was already getting a little choked up when we were going around the table introducing everyone and half the people were saying they were leaving within a couple of weeks. (Of course, I left eight months ago (they invited me back to the party as an emeritus member), but I'm still around. These people are mostly leaving for good. That's hard.) I agree, cutting off the feelings cuts off everything that matters. The pain is worth it, somehow. A&E: When's the next Jane Austen movie y'all are going to put out? Oh, wait, wrong A&E. :P While I haven't yet taken to exclaiming "Humanity!", I do have to say that it's growing on me, and I wouldn't be surprised if it becomes part of my vocabulary soon. People are just so darn interesting. I used to think I wasn't a people person, but over the last I don't know how many years, I've realized that for the most part things don't matter to me -- people do. Joe: God bless people people. :) Janet: It's true, love is the thing that gives life meaning. If it weren't for love, what would be the point? Holly: Glad you feel the same way too. :) Yes, I’d left by then, but I was already getting a little choked up when we were going around the table introducing everyone and half the people were saying they were leaving within a couple of weeks. (Of course, I left eight months ago (they invited me back to the party as an emeritus member), but I’m still around. These people are mostly leaving for good. That’s hard.) I agree, cutting off the feelings cuts off everything that matters. The pain is worth it, somehow.

A&E: When’s the next Jane Austen movie y’all are going to put out? Oh, wait, wrong A&E. :P While I haven’t yet taken to exclaiming “Humanity!”, I do have to say that it’s growing on me, and I wouldn’t be surprised if it becomes part of my vocabulary soon. People are just so darn interesting. I used to think I wasn’t a people person, but over the last I don’t know how many years, I’ve realized that for the most part things don’t matter to me — people do.

Joe: God bless people people. :)

Janet: It’s true, love is the thing that gives life meaning. If it weren’t for love, what would be the point?

]]> by: Janet http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58380 Fri, 21 Dec 2007 05:51:04 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58380 Ben, I think that everyone can relate to the feelings that you expressed in this post. I certainly do. Love is the most beautiful part of our human condition. Ben, I think that everyone can relate to the feelings that you expressed in this post. I certainly do. Love is the most beautiful part of our human condition.

]]> by: Joe Weidenbach http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58377 Fri, 21 Dec 2007 04:52:09 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58377 Ditto the other comments--I'm the same too. You're definitely not alone, my friend. And even though I sometimes seem like I am shutting people out in my blog, I can't help it, because, as A said, we are people people. Ditto the other comments–I’m the same too. You’re definitely not alone, my friend. And even though I sometimes seem like I am shutting people out in my blog, I can’t help it, because, as A said, we are people people.

]]> by: E. http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58367 Fri, 21 Dec 2007 01:47:50 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58367 What A said (of course). Humanity! What A said (of course).

Humanity!

]]> by: A http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58339 Thu, 20 Dec 2007 17:48:28 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58339 I'm exactly the same, Ben, which is why casual dating doesn't work for me. I love histories with people, relationships whether romantic or friendship. But that's the beauty of us, Ben. We are people people. We like to know their insides and outsides. We like to (for the most part) keep knowing people. "Humanity!" is what E and I are constantly saying. We love people. (But hey, so did Dickens, which is how he found all of his characters.) I couldn't agree with you more, friend. I’m exactly the same, Ben, which is why casual dating doesn’t work for me. I love histories with people, relationships whether romantic or friendship. But that’s the beauty of us, Ben. We are people people. We like to know their insides and outsides. We like to (for the most part) keep knowing people. “Humanity!” is what E and I are constantly saying. We love people. (But hey, so did Dickens, which is how he found all of his characters.)

I couldn’t agree with you more, friend.

]]> by: Holly http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58286 Thu, 20 Dec 2007 06:42:09 +0000 http://www.topofthemountains.net/2007/12/19/add-attachment/#comment-58286 Oh wow, I can't believe how well I can relate to this post, Ben. I feel the same way. The other day at our work Christmas party I felt really silly, because at the end when we sang some Christmas songs, (I think you had left by then?), I actually had to skip a couple of verses because I was getting all choked up about how much I loved these people. Probably half of them don't even know that I consider them friends. I felt pretty embarrassed, but at the same time, I really felt that way. I couldn't help myself. It's kind of funny to me now, but I looked around to see if perhaps, someone else might be feeling the same way, but really everyone looked pretty "ho hum" about it all. But, yeh, I agree with you. Even though it hurts a lot when you loose those relationships, I would rather go through it again and again then not. I have tried doing it the other way, and keeping myself distant so that I don't get attached, but it's like I loose the real me in the process. By cutting off those feelings for others, its like I'm cutting myself off from them too. Does that make any sense? Anyway, thanks for keeping this post. It's nice to know that someone else feels the same way I do. :) Oh wow, I can’t believe how well I can relate to this post, Ben. I feel the same way. The other day at our work Christmas party I felt really silly, because at the end when we sang some Christmas songs, (I think you had left by then?), I actually had to skip a couple of verses because I was getting all choked up about how much I loved these people. Probably half of them don’t even know that I consider them friends. I felt pretty embarrassed, but at the same time, I really felt that way. I couldn’t help myself. It’s kind of funny to me now, but I looked around to see if perhaps, someone else might be feeling the same way, but really everyone looked pretty “ho hum” about it all.

But, yeh, I agree with you. Even though it hurts a lot when you loose those relationships, I would rather go through it again and again then not. I have tried doing it the other way, and keeping myself distant so that I don’t get attached, but it’s like I loose the real me in the process. By cutting off those feelings for others, its like I’m cutting myself off from them too. Does that make any sense?

Anyway, thanks for keeping this post. It’s nice to know that someone else feels the same way I do. :)

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