The Archives: Relationships

I’m in the middle of hiring some new student employees (the usual post-semester turnover), and you know, it’s interesting being on this side of the interview table. This is …

It’s almost scary how much the media influences our perspective on life. The other day, for example, I was thinking about love — how it starts, grows, and then …

It’s been a while since my last dating post, so I figured I’d resurrect the dragon. :P

So, even though I’ve been on 79 dates since my mission (with 52 different …

1. Tonight I tried out speed dating for the first time. (It was a ward activity.) Holy smokes, I loved it! I love getting to know people …

I was wrong. All along I’ve thought that being open/honest and not playing games were the same thing. But they’re not, I’ve found. (And …

Liz has a great post today called A Heresy against Feminism:

I guess this gets me right down to the reason I am afraid to write about marriage: I believe …

Time for another potpourri post.

1. Here’s a bit on eye contact from the SIRC flirting guide which puts into words something I’ve been thinking about for a while but …

I know I’m playing with fire in posting something like this again, but what would life be without risk? :P (Apologies in advance for the, um, liberal use of …

I get attached to people pretty easily. (Yeah, I’ve got this human velcro thing going on with my fingertips and the pads of my hands. It’s really awkward …

[Each week I send out stories in my ward announcements, and since I haven’t posted any of my fiction on here in a long, long time, here’s the story that’s …

Twenty-five percent of girls graduate from BYU without getting asked out on a single date.

I don’t have a source on that statistic, so take it with a grain of salt, …

I love talking with people. Whether in person or via blogs or e-mails or phone or any other medium you can think of (smoke signals, anyone?), communication — good …

I’d rather she be oblivious to my existence than to know I exist and not care. At least the first way I still have a chance.

That idea came to …

I’ve been reading C.S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed, for the third or fourth time, and wow, I keep forgetting how good it is. Just in the first twenty pages …

I tried. Really, I did. But today’s post will again be about dating. And I hope I exhaust this topic soon, for all our sakes. :)

While walking …

I know, I know, I’ve posted a lot about dating lately. After this post (sorry!), I’ll try to leave the topic alone for at least a few months. …

I’ll probably regret posting this, but what the heck. I realized yesterday that whenever I make initial contact with a girl I find rather attractive, I’m immediately scared to …

Over the weekend I had a small string of epiphanies which popped up during church on Sunday, family home evening on Monday, and some conversations I’ve had over the past …

First off, can I just say wow to the power of StumbleUpon? Yesterday’s post about square watermelons got over 14,000 views within 24 hours. That’s insane. …

I spoke too soon. I reached out for the beautiful bubble in front of me, tried to hold onto it, and it popped. But it was mutual, and …

Over the past couple of weeks I’ve found that a lot of the things I used to think were essential were actually not. My preconceptions have been melting away …

I’m short on time so I’m not going to blog about my MLS experience in Vegas just yet. In fact, right now I have no clue what this post …

Hmm, WordPress marked three recent comments of y’all’s as spam, and I’m not sure why, seeing as there weren’t any links in them. They’re back up now, but until …

One of my friends once said to me, “You know, chick flicks are more science fiction than science fiction.” In a way, it’s true. But let’s not forget …

I just realized with a very pleasant surprise that all of the Victoria’s Secret ads have disappeared from Facebook — and I think it’s been a few weeks now, too. …

Everyone’s heard of Facebook by now, but I still run into scads of people who are staunchly anti. Or at least apathetic. And so, without further ado, I …

When you have a website that’s been up for over seven years, you get used to getting random e-mails from people who’ve stumbled across it. Now, for some people …

Today’s post will be a triptych, like those old three-part paintings (in case you were wondering what “triptych” means and if it does indeed have anything to do with “cryptic”). …

Once upon a time (yesterday afternoon, actually), my hair was long. Not girl-long, or mullet-long, but longer than I would like. (Personally, I’d like to be bald, but …

Rainy days are great for writing blog posts. :) (Well, until the power goes out.)

So, the other day I was talking with a couple of friends, and the conversation …

Do cell phones and iPods and Facebook virtualize our lives, stripping away the face-to-face contact we need and replacing it with prosthetic relationships?

That’s the vibe I’ve been getting lately from …

I’ve noticed in the last year or so that whenever I find a girl attractive, almost always there’s an accompanying ring on her finger. This means I’m either only …

[Editor’s note: I wrote this late yesterday afternoon, but my server was down all evening and so I couldn’t post it till now. Rather than rewrite the “today” references, …

The scenario: Guy likes girl. Girl isn’t interested.

Option A: Guy pursues girl anyway. Girl either 1) eventually becomes interested or 2) calls the cops and gets a restraining …

I hate goodbyes.

Yesterday in sacrament meeting we released most of the ward, seeing as finals end this week and everyone’s moving on. And in each of my scheduled finals …

What is up with so many guys in the arts being gay? It’s nowhere near a majority, thank heavens, but there are enough of them that a man who’s …

In one of my classes a few days ago, the discussion turned toward finding one’s spouse, engagements, and marriage. Our professor proposed to his wife four days after meeting …

Again, I should be studying for those midterms, but I couldn’t help myself. On my walk back up here to campus after FHE a few minutes ago (and what …

* Since the whole point of dating is to get to know each other better, make sure you talk about yourself every chance you get (and don’t just sit around …

Yet another multi-topic post.

1. Today’s Daily Universe has a series of articles about domestic abuse. I just finished reading them, and it made me so mad. How …

No, this isn’t more about my dating life. :) Each week I compile a list of what’s happening in Provo and thereabouts for my ward. We fondly call …

I was tempted for a moment to inflict upon y’all a poem which I wrote today during sacrament meeting, but I’ve successfully resisted. :) (This is the first time …

In my D&C class this morning, we were reading D&C 88 and got to the part about the soul being composed of body and spirit. The professor put up …

In my mind, songs stretch out across my neural network and connect with the memories of whatever’s happening in my life at the time I’m listening to them. (In …

Over the past two or three days I’ve learned something valuable, something I wish I’d known years ago. It is this: when a guy asks a girl out, there …

But fear itself, right? Lately I’ve had my own fair share of anxieties, with the inevitable result that this has been bubbling around in my mind a lot. …

I don’t go on many dates. It’s not that I’m afraid of dating, nor do I fear rejection (case in point: I once asked the same girl out seven …

Lately I’ve been thinking about hope. We’re taught to hope, to dream big, to believe, and yet on the other hand we’re warned against getting our hopes up. …

I’m tired and don’t feel much like writing, but letting a day go by without writing feels worse. :) So, I’ve been thinking about the oft-quoted phrase, “opposites attract.” …

And now, the long-promised post about A Return to Modesty. (Lesson learned: if you start hyping a post in advance, then you feel more obligated to do a …